Opening the Adult Toybox
“We still felt connected. Just more pleasure!”
How did our Adult Toybox come about?
Mr. Cullen and I were married over a decade before venturing into toys. We thought our sex life was great without any “help”. Why fix something that’s not broken?
I was surprised when I started shopping for lingerie (something I’ve always enjoyed with Mr. Cullen) and I kept seeing ads and references to these adult toys. So, I asked a couple of friends in confidence. They, all used them with their spouse! I was shocked.
What is so amazing about it? I finally broke the ice and mentioned toys to Mr. Cullen. Personally, I was nervous to ask or mention it. I didn’t want him to feel like he wasn’t enough, but I couldn’t help feeling curious.
When I mentioned it, it was no big deal! We had fun for about a week looking online at Adam & Eve: Sex Toys & Sexual Wellness Products (adameve.com)
Finally, we agreed to buy the mini clit vibrator. It didn’t feel as intimidating and was the most recommended for a beginner’s toy.
This toy is completely external, making it less intimidating to try for a split second.
Needless to say, I was pulsing stronger than ever with this toy! To this day, it’s still my favorite. I love playing with myself while he’s inside of me, and loves watching me play.
Sometimes we use it as a form or foreplay. He watches me please myself until he just can’t handle it anymore. This makes for an intense sexy night!
We also like to use this goodie while we are in between birth control. I play with myself while he gets a close up look until he finally covers me in his load.
We still felt connected. Just more pleasure!
Men and women have more than one way of reaching their climax. I didn’t realize this. I always thought traditional sex (penetration) was the only way to reach that big moment. This is a total lack of knowledge. I couldn’t have been more wrong.
Toys have allowed us to learn each other’s (and our own) bodies in a more in-depth way.
We personally love butt play. (This is not for everyone, and that’s okay) So, our next step was exploring butt plugs. We started with a super simple small one. It was under $10. No loss if we didn’t like it.
Butt plugs give us the feeling of group play without actively swinging with other couples.
We personally, don’t swing. Knowing we can’t handle allowing anyone else in our safe space. But that’s for another day.
Having both holes filled gives permission to fantasize, but the intimacy of knowing it’s just the two of you.
We also have grown to love butt plugs made for men. As I learned more about my self and my anatomy, I wanted to learn about Mr. Cullen. I want him to feel the same amount of pleasure as me.
The act of sex it to please each other right?
So, I looked into men’s g spots, and all things about pleasing my man better.
I learned that the G spot for a man is actually right past the entrance of the anus. This is called the prostate. I started by playing with my finger, and tongue. Learning his body was just as fun as learning mine!
Then, I found an awesome men’s intro to prostate gift box. We love this goodie! Especially when I want to make it all about him, since he’s always so focused on pleasing me.
There are so many articles and toys for all preferences.
On our spicy sites, we are very open about our journey with toys, and we are always learning.
Here’s some links and resources that may help you get started. Now, go find that magical spot that makes you pulse!
Resources:
Adam & Eve: Sex Toys & Sexual Wellness Products (adameve.com)
Eve's Petite Private Pleasure Wand - Vibrators | Adam & Eve (adameve.com
Intro To Prostate Kit - Prostate Toys | Adam & Eve (adameve.com)
How to Give a Prostate Massage That's Actually Safe and Fun | SELF
